5 Ways to Encourage Seniors

I recently read a very helpful article about ways to motivate and encourage seniors. The article is an excerpt from the book “How to Communicate Effectively with Seniors.”

The author states, “Caring for, and having successful relationships with older adults often requires unique interpersonal skills and strategies.” He then lists five ways to encourage and motivate older adults.

1. Encourage few and manageable goals

Primary needs fulfilled: independence, relevance

Secondary needs fulfilled: companionship, security

Being goal oriented can instill motivation, a sense of purpose, and pride in accomplishment. The author recommends creating few and manageable goals daily and then facilitating and assisting along the way. Even if the goal seems simple such as doing ten stretches or completing a small craft project, completing it can make a big difference in a senior’s experience of the day.

2. Encourage affirming self-identity

Primary needs fulfilled: relevance

Secondary needs fulfilled: companionship, emotional security

Many of us have been blessed by entering the life story of an older adult. They were once young and ambitious and passionate, and their lives were likely full of adventure, romances and achievements. By encouraging them to share their stories, through words and pictures, we can reaffirm their identity, value, and accomplishments. Surround them with positive memories via photos, postcards, posters, music, movies, honors, etc. Ask questions and watch their face light up as they tell you their story.

3. Encourage technologies

Primary needs fulfilled: companionship, relevance

Secondary needs fulfilled: independence, security

Social networking provides regular opportunities for seniors to connect with family and friends. It is also a convenient way for loved ones to check in on seniors and assess their physical, mental, and emotional well-being. While connecting via social networking does not replace the intimacy of face to face interactions, it is a wonderful supplement and can help older adults feel more connected daily.

4. Encourage the feeling of usefulness

Primary needs fulfilled: relevance, independence

Secondary needs fulfilled: companionship, security

It is important for older adults to feel a sense of usefulness. If their physical functions are limited, we can identify and introduce topics or tasks where they can feel wanted or needed. By asking for their opinions on decisions you need to make or asking them for advice on important life matters, they can feel that they have something to contribute to the lives of others.

5. Encourage adaptive, flexible coping skills

Primary needs fulfilled: independence, security

Secondary needs fulfilled: relevance

It’s vital to help older adults learn coping skills as they experience decreased cognitive and/or physical function. This can help them transition with dignity. Some ideas include: even fewer (but more workable) goals than mentioned above; breaking tasks into manageable baby steps; helping set more realistic goals; allowing the senior to do what she’s able (while helping just enough to complete a goal)

Having a sense of purpose, a strong sense of identity, connecting with family and friends regularly, experiencing the feeling of usefulness, and learning to cope with decreased abilities, can greatly impact and improve a senior’s experience of life. What can you do to help the seniors in your life?